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Sunday, October 3, 2010

Appreciate Your brains - Change The Internal Voice

Our brain contains more than 100 billion cells. It is more powerful than the most powerful computer ever created. Recognize and use our brain properly. Scientists say, most people only use 2% of the power of our brains. And much more space has not been explored.

"Many of us have low self esteem issues, which tells us that we are not as good as other people, other people better than us and we are not unable to do something great."

As long as we have this self esteem problems, and sabotage ourselves with negative thinking, we will never be able to discover the true potential of our brain.

"So, the first step is, change our mind setting and sound within ourself, not other people voice. Often, it is the voice of ourself that sabotage and said we can not do this and that."

So appreciate our brains. What we think is what we produce.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Come Back and Stay Motivated!

Hello has been a long time since my last updated. But no matter what, it is important to stay motivated.

How do you keep yourself motivated to achieve your goal in life? Want to do it my way? I usually find myself inspiring and motivatioanal books to read, song to sing along with and movies to watch. The Secret is my favorite book, and The Pursuit of Happiness is my favorite motivational movie.

Remember, when you start feel a little down and out and doubt starts to creep in, turn those motivational tools to help you keep on track. A few excellent motivators include Tony Robbins, Norman Vincent Peale, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar and Les Brown.

Also, google motivational quotes and poems and read it over and over again. You will find yourself alife, excited to do what you plan.

Try it and good luck!

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Tips to Lift Your Mood

Feeling stuck and depressed? Are the grey days and routines of everyday life starting to get you down? Don't give in to those feeling. Here are few tips to lift up your mood for you to try:-

Sing Along
Don't worry about the lyrics, or whether you can carry the tune. Just turn up your favourite music and belt it out. It doesn't matter what you sound like - the point is to release whatever is building up inside, be it sadness, longing, frustration or excitement. Let it out!

Pay Yourself A Compliment
Most of us are quick to praise others, but when was the last time you congratulated yourself? Reward yourself when you have reached one of your goals or finished a job - even the small accomplishments. Be enthusiastic regularly about your good points. It may be immodest, but it can really lift your spirit!

Invert Yourself - Literally
Stimulating blood flow to the head is a great invigilator. Yoga practitioners might do a headstand to achieve this, but you can get similar effect by resting your legs high up against a wall. Two minutes is all it takes (that's how long it takes for blood to circulate your body).

Get up, Get Out and Move
Even if you're working, take break or get out on your lunch hour and go for a brisk walk in daylight. Getting out and moving combines two important mood elevators:- It helps raise endorphin levels in the brain, which helps you feel happier; and natural light increases your levels of melatonin, a hormone that influences mood, sleep patterns and immunity.

Explore Another World
How well do you really know your neighbours or your colleague at work? Be curious and start asking question you might not have asked before. Taking an interest in others is one of the best ways to forget about your own problems, and it can lead to unexpected friendships. And having a laugh with friends is one of the best anti-depressants around.

Start A New Project
One of the biggest mood zappers is feeling you're not moving forward in life. So don't put it off. Think about any changes you might want to make in the direction your life is taking, and plan a project around that. Something which gets you excited that you simply can't wait to start!

Make Space
'Feng shui' is based on the theory that we are surrounded by an invisible energy called 'chi'. For this energy to flow smoothly through your home and in turn, through your life, you will need to clear away excess items. The golden rule is to get rid of clutter. Making space will improve your energy levels, lift your mood and create a harmonious home to relax in.

Stop What You're Doing
We are called 'human beings' not 'human doings', but so often we fall into the trap of feeling that we must always be doing something "worthwhile". Anne Todd, who runs "Change Your Life" workshops, suggest we allow tome daily for when we aren't working or achieving things. She says, at times, when you're dealing with something really difficult or depressing , it helps to say these four words to yourself: " This is only temporary".

Saturday, August 29, 2009

The Secret of Success

Very nice video to share with you all. Yes, failure is one thing that everyone,every human face in their life. But failure is also one thing that will help you to change, to learn and soon, to success. if you take your failure as a learning process.Not if you take your failure as a give up reason. Try hard, get better and better.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Are You Happy?

Life is full of surprise. Today you are happy and the next day, you are sad, then you laugh, and then something happen and you get frustrated. But that is all what life is about. We can't be happy all the time, tell me if you never get sad.

How do you overcome your sadness? Did you let it control you, your every action? Or do you control your sadness.

I have few tips to overcome your sadness, it is what I practice all the time. It is not tips to make you happy all the time because as a human, no matter how perfect you are, no one can be happy all the time.
Here are the tips:-
  1. Take a deep breath
  2. Close your eyes and imagine those good things ever happen in your life and that can bring a smile on your face. Appreciate those moments.
  3. Do something that get you busy and you love. Do you love to watch comedy? Do you love to read? Grab something and make yourself busy.
  4. Everytime those sad things came to you, try to look at diffrent side of it. If you break up with your boyfriend, think about your freedom to go out with your friends again. If your house has been rob, think about how you want to make your home more safer. Think of all the fun ways to make things better in the future.
  5. talk to someone. Sometimes, we need someone to listen to our problems. They don't have to give any advice or comment. All you need is their ears. Pour out everything. You will feel better.

Those are just fews tips from me ( the one that I really do). If you have any other tips, do share.

Be Happy

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

What it takes To be Successful

Just a few tips to share.....
  1. Planning is crucial and perhaps the most important step to your success.
    Prepare yourself to change your views, habits and your thought patterns.
  2. Only pursue tasks that are important. You must divide your needs from your wants – there is a fine line, so exercise discrimination.
  3. Watch your personal financial situation. Budget well and reduce spending.
  4. Surround yourself with people with a positive persona and those who are successful. Read books about people who have succeeded in life.
  5. Do not pretend to be who you are not. Be yourself and do not show off.
  6. Expand your horizon and be enthusiastic and ambitious.
  7. It is good to increase your income but it is even better to invest in assets that will make you wealthy.
  8. Prepare to work hard and make sacrifices.
Right actions enrich, strengthen and motivate us fully vitalizing our inner resources. Cultivation of such values and adhering to the right values of living will help us grow and achieve success. Such a consistent regime and exposure can mould our character and will help redeem our lower tendencies.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Suspending Bad Qualities to Improve your Personal Life

Suspending bad qualities to improve your personal life is a great start to success. Sometimes we have to leave bad habits behind to get ahead. Many people wander through life self-judging, failing to recognize discomforts is a part of life, and failing to see that the truth is the key that sets them free.
You want to start by discovering what your want from life. Once you decide what you want, consider what hinders you. If you discover what hinders you, think of ways that you can remove those obstacles out of your way. The first thing you want to do is be honest with you and others. If you are honest, you will find a way around nearly every obstacle you encounter. Remember though people need support.
Getting on the right track is easy when you discover your needs and wants. Once you discover you, you want to make sure that you write them down. Recording the details is the start to discovering more about you and what you want from life. Don’t set your expectations beyond your reach.
As you study you, learn to review your visions and voices within. These little critters are designed to help guide you in life. If you begin to rumble, instead of running from the voices write them down. You may be amazed at what you discover. The mind is developed to capture pictures faster than any media camera can produce. These images store secret messages that help us to advance. When pictures emerge views them carefully and look for your hidden messages. When you write down your images, it gets better since you develop new ideas.
If you are writing down images, instead of running from negative visions, relate to them. Write them down describing in detail what you see. Allow room to see why you think like this. Do you hang around with people that make you feel this way? Do you conform to habits that make you feel this way? Allow room and find answers to remove those negative emotions.

When your body talks, listen and stop avoiding what it says. The body tells us what we need. When you avoid your bodies talk, it opens the door for incurring more problems. The world is full of problems so why keep adding rather start subtracting. Your body talks in many ways. When your stomach grumbles, it is a clear indication you are hungry. Feast, satisfy your tummy and you will live happier. If your muscles are sore, it is a sign you lack exercise and stretches. Stretch those muscles. Work those muscles out. The worst thing that could happen is that you will feel bad. How bad can that be?

Do you shun discomfort? Discomfort is a part of life. Discomfort may produce in the form of boredom, fatigue, discomfort, and so on. Your body and mind will tell you when you feel discomfort. Instead of taking a flying leap to escape, face your discomforts.

Allow your discomforts to open new doors. Open the doors, walk in and face them head on. Most discomforts come from simple issues that lead to no problem at all. Do you run around like a turkey with its head cut off suspending judgment of self? If you are, you are rolling backwards in a cranky vehicle that leads you nowhere. Spark up them plugs and put the gears in motion by taking action to stop judging you. Unless you are the man in the sky with the plan, you have no right to judge.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Develop Your Intuition

Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality?

When you feel strongly about something without logical basis to it, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions: clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly and feeling through listening. Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what is happening somewhere. Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut feel." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know."

On the other hand, feeling through listening or clairaudience is being able to "listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's twitting - ushers in an intense feeling. They say only a number of people are gifted with intuition. Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies have been sprouting left and right that proclaim that anyone can develop intuition.

Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? Why not let your emotional and psychological state as it is? First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. Intuition also makes you far more creative than ever. Intuition means releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly, intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some negative energy buried in it.
With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here are some ways to unlock this gift:
  1. Hypnosis - Oh yes, get yourself hypnotized. Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth. Perform self-hypnosis or you can avail of hypnotic programs that can strengthen your intuition.
  2. Meditation - Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too many baggage and hurt, you wouldn't be able to quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.
  3. Think positive! - A worry-free, fear-free state could do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be able to easily recognize imminent feelings and events.
  4. Just let go - What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place where you could find out where the letting go has brought you. Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that voice wouldn't come out unless you let go.
  5. Never expect - After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop you from thinking and feeling clearly, never expect for an answer right away. Never expect that the "hunch" would fall on your lap immediately. Give it a little time then you'd just get surprised that -- wham! -- now you have your answer.
  6. Believe in your first impressions - When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition.
  7. Stay happy! - See? All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given that premise, intuition will fall to you easily.

Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by intuition alone. Decisions are easier done if armed by this gift. Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined.

Saturday, May 23, 2009

How Gratitude Can Bring You A Better Life

What can you do now to start to make your life better? The way you want it? The very first thing yous do is make a list of every single things that you are grateful for. Yes! It is that easy. This will help you to shifts your energy and then starts to change the way you are thinking. Gratitude will help you to appreciate life more than before and from and from there you will start to be a positive thinker. You will be amazed at the never ending thoughts that come back to you of more things to be grateful for. You will start to see you already had a lot of wonderful things in your life.

The most simple thing to do to practice gratitude is by saying "Thank You". Believe me no matter how simple and short it is, this is the magic words to a happy life. Start by saying thank you every morning when you get up from your bed. Thank You for what, you may ask. Well, thank you to God for letting you live in his world one more day. Say thank you hundreds time in a day, it won't make you tired, but I will make you feel wonderful. It will create your day and all that it will contain.
Being ungrateful will bring more bad situation into your life. Why? This is because the thoughts and the feeling you have as you feel ungrateful are all negative emotions. Those feeling will only return to you more of what you don't want and it's blocking the goods come to you.
Start practice this today. Make your list of all the things that you are grateful for. Your family, your kitchen, your dress, your books, your everything. Avoid yourself from being ungrateful in no matter what situation. Change those ungrateful feeling to grateful feeling and smile to it. Even if you had your car accident, say thank you...I will get a better car.
Oh my God, can see how easy it is to get a better life? I have tried this methods. And it' s help me a lot. No doubt, it brought more energy, it make me happy and those grateful feelings make me excited to plan my day ahead. Give it a try. It is not so hard.

Friday, May 22, 2009

Using the Law of Attraction

One of the interesting questions regarding the Law of Attraction deals with everyday application. With a theory that has such obscure and abstract principles, it is sometimes difficult for people to put the theory into action. In order to truly get the most out of the Law of Attraction, a person has to be able to set realistic and reasonable goals. It isn’t something that is going to save your life or send a million dollars to your door for no reason. Being realistic with your goals is a healthy way to look at the Law of Attraction.

The primary principles behind the Law of Attraction address how different people will deal with each other. This should be where you start when you want to set goals. The Law of Attraction can bring you a great deal of good will if you put out the right vibes towards other people. Not only will this open up good energy to come your way, but it will also generally make people feel like being around you.

The Law of Attraction is something that can shift luck in your direction, but you can’t expect it to bring you a miracle. It is alright to expect that it might bring someone special into your life. It is also acceptable to expect the Law of Attraction to put you in positive situations. From there, it’s up to you to make good decisions in order to effect change in your life.

The Law of Attraction won’t immediately turn you into a perfect person, but by putting out positive vibrations and controlling your positive energy, you will ensure that positive returns head your way. In order to use the Law of Attraction, it is said that a person must have a good knowledge of what they actually want; and, in addition to that, they must ask the universe for what they want.

In addition, a primary principle is that the person must be able to apply complete focus to the thing they want. In order to truly get what one wants, a person must be able to focus positive energy and enthusiasm on the object of desire and must hold the overwhelming belief that the object already gained.

Manifesting your desires by using the Law of Attraction is something that is completely controlled by the process of action. Perhaps no one action in itself will be enough to take your dreams and turn them into reality. In order to truly see a manifestation of your goals and desires, you may have to go through a step by step process.

The key to manifesting your desires is to have a strong focus. One of the primary principles of the law is that if you focus enough of your positive energy on a certain thing, it will eventually come to pass. Though it might not happen immediately, enough positive energy will influence situations that can help you realize those primary dreams and desires that you have.

Focus and attention to a goal is something that each person must have if they eventually want to achieve success. There’s no way to guarantee that a goal will be achieved immediately, but without focus, you can be sure that nothing good will happen in accordance with your long term goals.

What other things must you keep in mind if you want to achieve your goals through the utilization of the Law of Attraction? Perspective is obviously a very important consideration. You must understand the basic premise that you will be able to not only survive, but even thrive without achieving your goal. Although your eyes are fixed to the prize, you know that without it, you can still enjoy a good life.

Maintaining a proper perspective on your goals will help you to project waves of positive energy. According to the Law of Attraction, this is one of the most important things that people must do if they want to achieve success. Sending out good energy with the wrong intentions or motives will do nothing but channel negative energy back your way.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

A Genuine Sense of Security

One reason we’re so focused on wealth acquisition is the need to feel secure. We believe that if we have a large amount of money in the bank, we’ll be protected from lack, pain, difficulty and struggle. In a limited sense this is true. However, security is simply a state of mind!

It’s not the money itself that makes us feel secure; it’s our belief that adequate financial reserves protect us from bad experiences.

If we look logically at this concept, we realize that having a lot of money really can’t protect us from anything, except perhaps surprise expenses. Still, a fat bank account doesn’t guarantee we’ll never experience anything negative. There will always be car accidents, terror attacks, illness, job loss, troublesome relationships, and more. Having a lot of money won’t matter when we find ourselves in those situations, because they are completely out of our control.

The only true security we have is what we can create in our own minds. There is true security in believing in ourselves, in having confidence to overcome challenges, in our spiritual beliefs, and in doing our small part to make this world a better place.

Imagine living your life with the unshakable belief that you have what it takes to succeed, no matter what else is happening around you? Imagine never feeling frightened by outside influences again. Imagine knowing that even if the worst case scenario were to happen, you could easily and quickly pull yourself up by the bootstraps and do what needed to be done to get back on track.


Believing in our ability to handle whatever comes our way is much more effective than trying to guard against potential negative experiences. That’s the best kind of security, because it empowers us to feel in control of our lives – if not every situation, at least the outcome of the bigger picture.

Monday, May 18, 2009

The Truth About Money and Happiness

Intellectually, we may know that money can’t buy happiness, but some part of us still believes that we’d feel better if we were rich. Yet when we really look at wealthy people, we must wonder if they are any happier than the average person. Do wealthy people laugh more, experience more joy, or have greater fulfillment in their lives? Perhaps some do – but how much of it is a direct result of their wealth?

In fact, you can probably point to a handful of wealthy people that appear to be completely miserable. Not surprisingly, some people seem to become less satisfied the wealthier they become! Perhaps they were under the misconception that money would solve all their problems, or having a large amount of money brought along its own challenges. I’m sure you’ve heard the horror stories about people who win the lottery or come into a large sum of money through an inheritance or other means. Many of them experience a few years of heartache and struggle, and end up flat broke again. Money didn’t solve their problems – only made them worse!

Another reason why wealth can make us miserable is that it distracts us from what is truly important for a happy and fulfilling life. We find ourselves focusing more and more on material objects and end up feeling disconnected from our inner selves.

If you are feeling unhappy in your life right now and you’re thinking that money will solve your problems, it's time for a reality check! I won’t deny that having material abundance can make our lives a little easier. Believe me, I’m all too aware of what it’s like to struggle to pay the bills, or feel like you’re living on the edge of a cliff and the ground is crumbling beneath your feet. I know the terror of worrying whether the electricity will be shut off for nonpayment, or wondering if you’ll be able to afford to buy groceries this week.

I’m not trying to minimize these types of struggles – but I want you to be clear that having a lot of money will not automatically make you feel happy and content in your life.

Money can definitely help us to enjoy a greater quality of life, but only if we have a healthy attitude toward money; otherwise it will just add bigger burdens.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Finding Your Life Purpose

When you hear the term life purpose, what does it mean to you? “Life purpose” is really a commitment or resolve to live in a certain way and achieve specific objectives. Realizing and living your life purpose will be a comfortable and enjoyable process. Little by little , you’ll create life circumstances that are totally suited to who you are, your likes and dislikes, natural talents, and much more. It’s the kind of inner journey that changes everything – from emptiness to satisfaction, from boredom to passion, from aimlessness to unbridled joy and beyond!

Finding your life purpose is a misleading concept because it’s not something you have to go out and “get,” but rather something you need to turn within and claim. You’ve already got it – even if you haven’t consciously realized or chosen it yet. Of course, whether you believe it is already within you or not, you still need to “find” it in some sense. How do you do that? By looking in the most obvious places – your passions and interests.
Your purpose will always be something that:
  • You feel passionate about
  • You are naturally good at
  • You already love to do
  • Is important to you

When these things come together, you’ve got a virtual explosion of passion, meaning, fulfillment, empowerment – and purpose!

It’s important to understand that you may face a few challenges while you’re working toward your life purpose.Sometimes these challenges will come from inside your own mind (negative thoughts, doubts, and the like), and sometimes they might be external obstacles you didn’t expect to encounter. These challenges might include:-

  1. Fear of Change -This is a common challenge for people who are firmly entrenched in their current life circumstances. If you’re in your forties, fifties or older, you may think it’s too late to conceive a new life purpose now. No matter your specific situation, it’s never too late to make changes that will contribute greater value to the world and create greater meaning and fulfillment in your own life. The only thing you have to consider is what you want and what you’re willing to do to have it. Small changes or big changes, it’s completely up to you.
  2. Lack of Belief - Whatever lack of belief you may have right now, it’s okay. Understand that inner conviction usually comes from doing, not necessarily from trying to convince yourself. If you have completed the worksheets on the things that are important to you, you are passionate about, interested in and naturally good at; you’ve already got a sense of the right direction to move in. If you also took the time to identify some clear steps that will move you toward what you want, there is nothing left to do but start taking those steps! As you do, you’ll begin to believe little by little. With every success, every challenge you stare down, every obstacle you overcome, you’ll begin to believe in yourself and the importance of what you’re doing. Eventually, momentum will take over and the process will become a lot easier.
  3. If You Do What You Love, Will the Money Follow? - This challenge applies to you especially if you intend to turn your life purpose into a career. One of the biggest obstacles people in this situation face is uncertainty about how to transition from their current career to a new one that relates to their life purpose. If you really want to turn your life purpose into a paying career, you need to find a way to monetize your passions. Depending on your personal situation, this may be something you can do right away and quit your existing job, or it might be something you’ll have to build up to gradually. It will be different for everyone, so take some time to determine what will work best for you.
  4. Charging Money for Your “Gifts” - Many people believe that gifts and talents (usually referred to as “God-given”) should be shared freely with others and never exchanged for monetary gain. But, if you don’t charge money for your talents and services, you will have to earn an income some other way unless you happen to be financially independent. In most cases, that means you’ll have less time and energy to devote to your true purpose. At my view, there is nothing wrong with charge for your talents, it just depends on what your objective is.
  5. Slow Progress - As you begin moving toward your life purpose, you may feel like you are moving through molasses. Maybe you’ll bump into plenty of obstacles that will slow your progress, money might trickle in when you desperately need a waterfall, or you might simply seem to be moving at a snail’s pace for no apparent reason. Well, you need to understand that you are likely undergoing some major changes both within and without. There may also be external influences affecting your progress, and you have no control over those influences. No matter what is happening, do your best to make the journey itself the reward. In other words, don’t get hung up on expecting a specific outcome in a certain time frame. As long as you are taking the steps that you know will lead to your chosen destination, you are on the right track. Instead, make it your mission to feel good about what you’re doing right now. Trust that everything will work out exactly as it’s meant to and focus only on doing your part. When you do that, you avoid wasting time and energy on fear, doubt and frustration. You stop worrying about the end result and enjoy each step between here and there.
  6. Balance and Responsibility - When you first conceive your life purpose, you may find yourself wanting to hurry up and make it all happen overnight. Whether there are many people who need what you can provide or you feel desperate to change your own life circumstances, remember to take it slow. Keep balance with the rest of your life. Make time for proper self-care, rest and recreation. You won’t be serving anyone if you end up burned out and exhausted.
  7. Keeping Those Fires Burning - Self-motivation can be a tricky thing, no matter how passionate you are about your activities. Sometimes without realizing it you may find your attention waning or outer distractions interfering, which can throw you off track in a hurry. You may find it helpful to come up with a mission statement to keep you on track. Whatever kind of mission statement you choose, make it something meaningful to YOU. Something that will fuel your inner passion and keep you focused on your ultimate objectives.

There are other possible challenges that could arise; it’s impossible to cover all of them in these few pages. But no matter what kind of challenges you may face on your journey toward greater purpose and meaning, know that your attitude is going to make the biggest difference in the magnitude of the obstacles you encounter.

Rather than seeing these obstacles as threats, learn to see them as opportunities. Opportunities to strengthen yourself from within; opportunities to stretch your limits; opportunities to grow and develop as a person, and more. Challenges can be your best friends if you’re willing to learn from them. When you believe that your life has meaning and make it your purpose to infuse that meaning into everything you do, you make every moment and every activity meaningful. Consequently, you are able to live with purpose no matter what you do, no matter where you go, and no matter how you and your life purpose evolve over time.

You’ll simply turn your entire life into a vehicle for positive change, growth, healing, awareness or anything else you decide to adopt as your mission.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Facing Your Fears

Fear can be a very debilitating treacherous emotion. There is a healthy level of fear that we all need for basic survival but some people literally let fear rule their lives. As you begin challenging your beliefs and expanding your potential, you may have to face some fears along the way. This seems scary because most of us are used to cowering in the face of fear. We tend to avoid situations that make us feel uncomfortable, and I don’t know of any situations more uncomfortable than fearful ones!

However, your fears are truly nothing to fear. Just like the saying goes,

“There is nothing to fear but fear itself.” (Franklin D. Roosevelt)
Your fears are a direct result of your beliefs. Or, more specifically, your fears are the result of CHALLENGING your beliefs.

Fear is nothing more than a conditioned response to a perceived danger. If we believe that something is dangerous or harmful to us, we naturally will fear it. Trying to force ourselves through the fear without changing our perception of it is often unnecessarily painful, though effective. There is nothing wrong with forcing yourself to face your fears if you desire to overcome them badly enough. People do this successfully every day.

But if you’re a sensitive soul who desires a gentler approach, here are some good ones for you:
  • First, convince yourself that there is no danger. It is our belief that something will go horribly wrong if we move forward that keeps us locked in terror. One simple way to overcome this paralysis is by asking yourself, “What is the worst thing that could happen?” And, “Could I handle it if the worst did happen?” Most often, your answer will be affirmative.
  • Plan ahead so you know what to do if the worst happens. If your fear is public speaking but you really want to (or have to) give a speech, ask yourself what the worst possible occurrence might be if you go ahead. You might answer, “stage fright,” or “flubbing my words.” Consider how you would handle those situations. Could you laugh them off and turn them into a joke for the audience? Could you visualize the audience in their underwear? You get the idea – turn your worst case scenario into a “so what?” and your perspective will change.
  • Visualize a different outcome. Whatever your feared outcome is, come up with an inner “script” that is in direction opposition to it and replay it over and over in your mind until you believe it. Using the public speaking example from above, visualize yourself feeling pumped up, dynamic and confident as you step onto the stage. See the audience being interested in what you have to say, listening closely, laughing at the appropriate moments, and your words flowing smoothly and effortlessly. Imagine the thunderous applause as you conclude your speech, and imagine the incredible sense of elation you’ll feel for conquering your fear.
  • Shrink your fears and squash them like a bug. We often feel that our fears are so much larger than we are. It feels like they LOOM over us, draining our power and diminishing our determination. Change this perception by imagining your fears shrinking, shrinking, growing smaller and less intense until they have the stature of a bug on the ground before you. Tell the fear that you’re grateful for its attempt to protect you, but you don’t need protecting. Then…step on it. Squash it into oblivion.

There are many more ways to challenge your fears, but the main point is to avoid letting them control your life. Fear can be so pervasive that it SEEMS to be out of our control, but remember that a fear is nothing more than a thought. Whether you examine it closely, question it, challenge it, work calmly through it or push forcefully through it doesn’t matter. As long as you remember that YOU are the one in control, not your fears.

Like most of the other techniques in this report, fear-squashing takes some practice before you get truly comfortable with it. Take your time and keep at it, and before long you’ll be one of those people that laughs in the face of fear and thrills to whatever challenge rises up before them.

Finally, learn to use your fears as a valuable tool for awareness. We’ve covered the negative side of fear, but one benefit it does have is that it acts as a beacon to reveal your limiting beliefs! Any fear (besides genuine dangers, of course) can tell you something about yourself. Where fear lives, so do limiting beliefs. Learn to use this knowledge to your advantage. Follow your fears directly to the roots of your limiting beliefs, and yank them right out.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Belief: Pushing Your Limits

Your beliefs are the foundation upon which your entire life rests. This foundation was formed by your childhood experiences, the experiences you’ve had during the course of your life, and the conclusions you’ve drawn as a result of them. Every action (or non-action) you’ve taken during your lifetime has been encouraged or discouraged by these beliefs. Consequently, most of the situations in your life are a result of your actions (or in actions).

In order to begin pushing your limits and increasing your potential, you need to examine the beliefs you have about your limitations. You’ve started the process by making a list of your most obvious perceived limitations, but in order to effectively and permanently change them, you’ll need to challenge them and actively work on expanding your concept of what is possible.

Whether you realize it or not, you’ve got a certain internal “set point” where you think your capabilities stop in any given arena. These set points can vary according to the intensity of your beliefs and they may be different for different activities. For example, you might know that you are good at one activity but feel you stink at another.

It can be helpful to examine the reasons WHY you feel this way, because most often our limiting beliefs hold no substance whatsoever. Maybe someone told you that you are not good at singing, so you never bothered to find out. Or your friend laughed at your dreams to be a business people, saying that you don't have the skills.

It’s bad enough when other people set limitations for us, but the problem is compounded when we begin doing it ourselves.

  • No longer do we need others to tell us we stink at something; we come to the realization all by ourselves.

  • No longer do we need someone to tell us we’re a loser; one failure is enough to convince us.

  • No longer do we need others to deflate our confidence; we can do it more effectively ourselves.

Do you see the pattern of destruction and the dimmed potential that results from it? For most of us, it takes only ONE negative experience to start an avalanche of massive proportions. Of course, it doesn’t usually happen quickly but is rather the result of years of gradually decreasing belief in ourselves.

It’s important to understand that your limiting beliefs were FORMED, sometimes by others in your life and sometimes by you. Either way, they can be unformed, smashed, rolled into a ball and formed into something else entirely. Your beliefs are malleable and flexible! They may feel like “facts” but they are simply thoughts that have gained strength and solidity because of sheer repetition on your part.

How do we change this belief system when it has been in your brain system for such a long time? You will need to start to open up your mind. Try to ignore your old negative belief you had about yourself until you see the real result. Ignore what other people comment about you if it's seem to limit your ability. They are just other people. You are yourself and you are the only one who really know about yourself. When you really start to get this, it becomes very exciting! Suddenly a whole new world opens up to you, a world in which anything is possible.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

I Can Be Recognized

Man’s esteem needs, or his necessities to gain approval and recognition, is one of his basic needs, 4'th in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to be exact. Since there is no one in this world who we can consider perfect, we are struggling so much and exerting a lot of effort to be somebody close enough to being perfect. We make ourselves look good, gain more friends, find true love, and achieve high goals. And it all comes down to the fact that we want to be recognized. Well, I do. Do you? If so, the question is can you?

Just imagine how good the feeling would be if you are being recognized not just by the people close to you, but even others you don’t personally know. It’s as if you feel superior, better than others, and loved by all. Who does not want this kind of attention?

But, this desire is no different than the previous 4 situations we have discussed earlier. This, too, takes a lot of time, effort, energy, and responsibility from the individual, or more. After all, this is the end result of the combinations of the other 4. But with the right focus and attitude given to this, it would not be a long time to achieve such desire.

Be confident. Stand up for yourself. Reach out to others. Learn to love and be loved back. Respect others as much as you respect yourself. Love your work. Do your best in every task you engage in. Don’t forget to look back. Be thankful. And above all, pray. Remember, life is too short and precious to waste it with useless thoughts and actions. Live everyday as if it’s the last – another way of saying live your life to the fullest. Until everyone notices that you are someone who can reach the sky with your feet on the ground and can move mountains through the faith you possess, then they will enthusiastically recognized you.

It all starts with “I can be recognized. Therefore, I will be.”

Saturday, May 9, 2009

I Can Reach my Goals in Life

Success can not be attained overnight. But, still, it can be attained. Funny how people can be so impatient most of the times. Just observe students in the middle of their school life. Instead of being excited that they’ll soon finish education, they would complain of getting bored and wanting to stop schooling for work or, worse, play. Employees and office people, by the time they think they have earned enough money for their family, would plan leaving work to just stay in the house. With these kinds of thinking and attitude, how would one expect to reach his goals in life?

Life is too precious to waste living it without a plan or goal. It is too short not living it to the fullest, as they say. Okay, okay. Say, you have a goal, a dream, a wish you want to fulfill. You’d ask, is that enough? The answer would be yes, as long as you have the assertiveness to reach it. Hey, it wouldn’t be called a goal unless you have no plans of achieving it, right? Otherwise, having a goal without the will to make it into reality is not enough.

Another problem regarding this matter is that people do have a goal but just don’t have what it takes to achieve it, or so they thought. Again, they become blinded by the negativity of their minds. Money, socio-economic status, race, age, gender – these are just a few factors that hinder individuals to think that they have what it takes to attain success that everyone has been dreaming of. So what if you don’t earn a lot of money? Will that be reason enough for you not to attend school or find a job? How about if you are not among the authorities in your society? Or you’re of a different race? Or you’re still young? Or you’re a female? Should they even be considered reasons to discourage you in turning your dreams into reality? I don’t think so. It is only your mind that says so. Hence, fight it.

What you can do is put your mind into something you want to happen. Say, you want to be a writer. Therefore, think as a writer, feel as a writer, and be a writer. Practice. Read a lot. Grab all opportunities that would make you a writer. Like everything else that we wish to happen, in reaching for a goal, we should make sacrifices – time, effort, responsibilities, etc. After all, success does not come overnight. But eventually, it will.

Friday, May 8, 2009

I Can Find True Love

They say that you’ll never know when you’re in love…You’ll only feel it. Indeed, love is quite a strong feeling. It is a special bond between two people mutually attracted to one another, not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, as well. Many believe in the concept of soul mates – that there is one single person in this world meant for each one of us. Others trust in signs and signals that say one is destined to be with another, or what they call destiny; while, some are just certain of falling in love and taking effort in establishing a relationship. Whatever idea of love we believe in, I’m sure that each one of us hopes to find that one true love we are meant, destined, or intended for us because love, like friendship, is also a precious treasure to have.

No matter how sweet love can be, how it brings brightness and color in our lives, or how it makes us strong and inspired through everyday, there are those who don’t accept love, or at least had given up in the search for it. It’s not that they don’t believe in its existence, but there are some factors that make them believe that they may never find true love…ever.

This is when negative thoughts take place again: I am not beautiful. No one will love me; I have braces. No one will want to kiss me; I am not rich. No one will agree to go out with me. How sad can the people who think this way be? And if you are one of them, I’m telling you now, if you still want to find true love, you have to change the way you think.

You should bear in mind that true love is not just about appreciating the physical aspect of an individual, but also accepting his inner personality. For the purpose ofsimplicity, let’s use the male version. Loving him means loving all of him – not just his strengths, but also his weaknesses; not just his perfections, but also his flaws; not just his rightness, but also his mistakes. Therefore, if someone you love makes you feel inferior, stop it. He is not worthy of your love in any way. Because if he loves you back, no matter how you look, how you act, or what you believe in, he will accept you for who you are. That’s how true love works – accepting and understanding. Nobody has the right to make you feel inferior in any way, including yourself and the one you love.

The first and easiest way to make someone love you truly is to love yourself before anyone else. Determine who you are. Know yourself better. Accept your flaws and weaknesses. And when you feel confident enough about yourself, it wouldn’t be hard to find someone who will notice you and see you in a different way. Most people feel attracted to someone who can be himself/herself at any particular moment with any companion.

After doing your part in being yourself, you may now set probable standards of the person you are looking for – someone you want to spend most of your time with.With the number of people you meet everyday, get to them one by one. Spend some time with them. Eventually, you’ll find out that one of them may suit the qualities you are looking for in a person. Befriend him/her. Love that starts with friendship is stronger than any sudden relationship. Love, too, shall take time, patience, and the right attitude to work well, especially when you meet a few wrong people or the right people at the wrong time. After all, true love is worth all the pain and heartaches in the end.

You know what to say. “I can find true love. Therefore, I will.”

Thursday, May 7, 2009

I Can Make Many Friends

What is a friend, by the way? I may not know how you define it but I guess I would just have to agree with Jazz singer Billie Holiday on how he viewed the idea. “If I don’t have friends, then I ain’t got nothin’.” A true friend is your ally, your teacher, and your sibling – only with different parents. He shall believe in everything you do, stay with you no matter what it takes, lift your spirits high and never let you down, and trust you with any secret he knows you won’t hold against him. True friends are real treasures. Having many of them means being rich and wealthy of love, respect, and understanding.

Making many new friends starts with meeting new people. And meeting new people involves wise building of attitude and relationship among them to eventually establish a good rapport. Let me ask you this: Have you ever gone out on a party or an event where you felt you were left out because there is no one to talk to? And you even fear that when you approach someone, you might just be ignored? Actually, this is a common problem for many in meeting new people. But the truth is, this can also be the stepping stone in gaining many new friends.

So, what does it take to make many friends? The truth is, making friends takes a lot of time, effort, and energy. Most people are too occupied in doing something “more” important that they consider meeting new people and hanging out with them one of their least priorities. Others require mutual trust but find it hard to give or accept. Thus, for these kinds of people, friendship is something that is of no value. Geez…They are missing a lot from their lives.

Making and keeping friends rests on four key principles: taking initiative to reach out to others, showing genuine interest to people, treating others with respect andkindness, and valuing people as much as you value yourself. Though these actions may really take your time and effort, you’ll realize at the end that everything is worth it. Friends are more valuable than any other material thing in the world. They will just all come and go, but true friends will never leave you behind.

So, take some time to think this over. After which, you can believe that, “I can make many friends. Therefore, I will.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

I Look Good, Feel Good, and Be Good

True beauty can not be seen only in the outside appearance of an individual, but in the inside, as well. It is an innate quality, a way of being, a manner of acting. A common misunderstanding in this concept is that it refers to the perfection of the physical characteristics only. Where, in fact, to achieve balanced beauty, the inner and the outer features of an individual must blend together in such a way that it is bounded by love, happiness, social grace, and self-expression through all bodily movements.

Observe the people around you. Even without seeing them, I know that all of them are beautiful and I can justify my observation. Some of them are physicallyattractive – slim, fair complexion, with long shiny hair, with nice smile – that makes other people go for a second look. Others have wonderful personalities – cheerful, animated and fun to be with. Still others are intellectually gifted – performs good in English, Math, Science or any academic subjects. Lastly, there are those who are talented with different skills like playing musical instruments, acting on stage, etc. The people who possess any or combinations of these are considered beautiful in one way or another. But for someone to be believed as truly beautiful, he/she must possess all of these qualities. Think of it as a diamond which must be cut with many facets in order to sparkle properly. Each facet should be proportioned in such a way that complete beauty shines forth.

Achieving true beauty is not as hard as it may seem. As a matter of fact, to think beautiful is to be beautiful. That’s right! All you need is the proper attitude towards believing how good you look and feel, and it will eventually show that you are, indeed. The seeds of beauty are one of the most precious seeds of thought you can plant and cultivate in your mind. Just by thinking and saying, “I look good,” you sowed the seeds. After sowing these seeds, cultivation must begin. Cultivation is comprised of the responsibility and the commitment on your part to make beauty a reality in your life. This takes time and work, especially that it needs to work on all the aspects of your being – physical, emotional, mental, and aesthetic. Cultivating the thought, “I look good” requires self-analysis, goal-setting, discipline, dedication, and patience until you can finally say, “I feel good. I am good.”

What is essential in achieving good looks, feelings, and vibrations is to love yourself above everything else. Respect and love for your unique self and an understanding of your nature are the first steps in building respect, love and understanding to others. Only when you feel good about yourself will you begin to likeand love yourself. And only when you begin to love yourself will you become a vital and interesting person for others to see. The secret is to develop a friendly relationship with yourself. If you would not want yourself as a friend, who would want to?

It’s really not that difficult, is it? So, go on. Tell yourself and other people that “I can look good, feel good, and be good. Therefore, I will.”

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