They say that you’ll never know when you’re in love…You’ll only feel it. Indeed, love is quite a strong feeling. It is a special bond between two people mutually attracted to one another, not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, as well. Many believe in the concept of soul mates – that there is one single person in this world meant for each one of us. Others trust in signs and signals that say one is destined to be with another, or what they call destiny; while, some are just certain of falling in love and taking effort in establishing a relationship. Whatever idea of love we believe in, I’m sure that each one of us hopes to find that one true love we are meant, destined, or intended for us because love, like friendship, is also a precious treasure to have.
No matter how sweet love can be, how it brings brightness and color in our lives, or how it makes us strong and inspired through everyday, there are those who don’t accept love, or at least had given up in the search for it. It’s not that they don’t believe in its existence, but there are some factors that make them believe that they may never find true love…ever.
This is when negative thoughts take place again: I am not beautiful. No one will love me; I have braces. No one will want to kiss me; I am not rich. No one will agree to go out with me. How sad can the people who think this way be? And if you are one of them, I’m telling you now, if you still want to find true love, you have to change the way you think.
You should bear in mind that true love is not just about appreciating the physical aspect of an individual, but also accepting his inner personality. For the purpose ofsimplicity, let’s use the male version. Loving him means loving all of him – not just his strengths, but also his weaknesses; not just his perfections, but also his flaws; not just his rightness, but also his mistakes. Therefore, if someone you love makes you feel inferior, stop it. He is not worthy of your love in any way. Because if he loves you back, no matter how you look, how you act, or what you believe in, he will accept you for who you are. That’s how true love works – accepting and understanding. Nobody has the right to make you feel inferior in any way, including yourself and the one you love.
The first and easiest way to make someone love you truly is to love yourself before anyone else. Determine who you are. Know yourself better. Accept your flaws and weaknesses. And when you feel confident enough about yourself, it wouldn’t be hard to find someone who will notice you and see you in a different way. Most people feel attracted to someone who can be himself/herself at any particular moment with any companion.
After doing your part in being yourself, you may now set probable standards of the person you are looking for – someone you want to spend most of your time with.With the number of people you meet everyday, get to them one by one. Spend some time with them. Eventually, you’ll find out that one of them may suit the qualities you are looking for in a person. Befriend him/her. Love that starts with friendship is stronger than any sudden relationship. Love, too, shall take time, patience, and the right attitude to work well, especially when you meet a few wrong people or the right people at the wrong time. After all, true love is worth all the pain and heartaches in the end.
You know what to say. “I can find true love. Therefore, I will.”
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